How can I call you?

How can I call you?
A friend? A lover? Or something else?
What's in your mind -  how can I know?
What am I in your messy life?

How can I call you - for our own satisfaction
So that no one feel guilty, no one feel hurt?
That is life - for life is thought to be generous
Yet not generous enough to satisfy itself.

We still can't call what we are to each other
My feeling hurts, yours hurts, everybody hurts
For I think life is too enormous
Too enormous for us to lose each other.

(Copy from web)

Em là gì giữa bề bộn đời anh - Bùi Tuyết Nhung

Em biết gọi anh như thế nào đây?

Là bạn ? Là anh ? Hay là gì khác ?

Và trong anh ... trời ơi em không biết

Em là gì giữa bề bộn đời anh ?

Gọi thế nào cho thoả nỗi riêng chung ?

Để không ai khổ tâm, không ai thấy mình có lỗi,

Tất cả tại cuộc đời, cuộc đời tự cho mình là rộng rãi

Nhưng rồi cuộc đời có chứa nổi mình đâu ?

Không thể gọi đích danh ta là gì của nhau

Đau lòng em, đau lòng anh, đau lòng người tội lắm

Nhưng em tin cuộc đời này sâu rộng

Sâu rộng đến vô cùng nên lạc mất hai ta...

How to Win Friends & Influence People

This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936

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Table of Contents

1. Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
2. Six Ways to Make People Like You
3. How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
4. Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

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Part One

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

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Part Two

Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

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Part Three

Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

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Part Four

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.